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Till We Say I Do Interviews – Chinedu and Agnes Ossai

Hello 😀

Thank God is Fri-yay! Fridays are my favorite days for obvious reasons lol. I go to work with a bounce in my steps knowing that there is no work for the next two days.

We have our second edition of Till We Say I Do Interviews. If you missed the first one, click here. 

On the blog today, we interview Chinedu and Agnes Ossai. I’ve known them for a little over 4 years and always seen them as two people who are clearly in love with one another. The way they hold hands, the names they call each other and just the friendship between them.

My sisters and I went to visit them a while back and we watched their wedding video and they told us how they met. When we got back home, I told my sisters that I really liked them!

Without further ado, let’s get to the interview, shall we?

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Hello Chinedu and Agnes Ossai, it is a pleasure to have you on Till We Say I Do Interviews! Please tell us a bit about yourselves.

Chinedu (Husband)- Chinedu Ossai is a lawyer by profession. One of three boys from a family with three other female siblings of the Ukwuani descent of Delta State. Most importantly, a Christian.

Agnes (Wife)– My name is Agnes Ossai. I have a degree in Education and proud to be an Educator. I love to impart youngsters, enjoy giving godly counsel to singles also enjoy listening to godly music.

How long have you been married?

We’ve been married for 5 years.

How did you meet?

Chinedu – We were in the same youth choir, I was a secret but platonic admirer of her simple disposition to life, especially the Christian faith. At the time when it became evident that I needed to start preparing by way of prayer before tying the nuptial knot, I became drawn to her. The more I tried to resist the inner assurance that it was her, the more I became drawn to her. I just had to let it be.

Please note that we attended the same primary and secondary school and almost attended the same university, grew up in the same community in Lagos, but all these factors did not in any way influence my decision to marry her. It was just love for simplicity and display of Christianity in a most alluring way. Got the ball rolling in 2010 and tied the knot on January 14 2012.

Agnes – My Chinedu happened to be a family friend. He was a leader and choirmaster in my church. One day, he came visiting as usual and I saw him off. As I returned, I heard an audible voice from God that he was my husband. I objected immediately but couldn’t resist. He asked me out after a while then I remembered I heard God’s voice.

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Did you have a “list” for your future spouse? If yes, what did you have on the list?

Chinedu – Simplicity, humility, educated, not eccentrically extrovertish, natural beauty, all embedded in the Christian life.

Agnes –I did oh. A Godly man; tall, dark and handsome; a man who will always take me for who I am and loves me more than I do; someone who says I love you frequently without the need to remind him to say so; someone who would gist with me in the kitchen while I cook; not stingy at all; a man who will not encourage me to backslide… my list was long but I’ll stop here.

The truth is that, my man, my love has all and more of the qualities I listed above, making me the happiest wife in the world!

Describe your spouse in on word.

Chinedu – Christian

Agnes – Mr. Fantastic

 Why did you decide to wait?

Chinedu – Because God wanted me to wait. I also grew up with friends who had the same resolve and I also prayed for the grace to wait.

Agnes- We are both Christians and the Bible says that marriage is honourable and the bed undefiled. Also, I had always told myself I want to start having sex only after I have gone to the altar.

“Sex is sweet only when having it with your husband. The rush will not be there and you’ll take your time to enjoy it to the fullest.” – Agnes

 What practical steps did you take to make it possible?

Agnes – We tried as much as possible not to get too close together when we were alone or where people couldn’t see us. Avoided thoughts of immorality when together, we did not try to hug each other before marriage, let alone kissing. Though the thought was always there, I kept reminding myself of the promise I made. I also didn’t want to disappoint my parents and the church.

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 How did you deal with peer pressure?

Chinedu – Peer pressure was no issue because from my youthful age, I defined the rule of friendship engagement. The church helped a whole lot to define who could be my friend. At school, I had christians from the school fellowship as friends; on campus, my close friends were christians, though not restricted to my denominational fellowship.

The deciding factor for me was that my christian identity and standard was an open secret at every point of my developmental stage. I never attended any birthday parties at unholy hours not at unholy places.

I never pretended to be a holy genius. Hence, I was careful and cautious in my approach to life. A lady once admired my lips and requested to touch it but I refused. That is not to say, I never had near falls but God’s mercy was always there for me. Job 31:1 was a song among my peer group while growing up and this helped a whole lot.

Agnes – Well, it was easy quite easy for me because I was brought up in a godly home. I am a gentle girl and have very few friends and always minded my business.

“Never test your strength by putting yourself in a compromising situation.” – Chinedu

Why is sex worth waiting for?

Chinedu – Those who waited found out after all that there was no need to rush for it. The intermittent urge for it prior to marriage won’t kill. There is a joy that comes after a patient wait. The opportunity to share the experience is also a reason to wait. Also, blackmail and STDs are also avoided.

Agnes –Wow sex is worth waiting for! Doing it outside marriage is like “thieving”. One would be doing it with the fear of being caught. Having that type of fear doesn’t make pre-marital sex worth it cause you’ll just be punishing yourself. Sex is “sweet” only when having it with your husband. The rush will not be there and you’ll take your time to enjoy it to the fullest.

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 Any advice for young Christians?

Chinedu- Young Christians must have life principles that are worth dying for. Watch where they go, what they see and whom they choose as friends. A chirstian leader told me few weeks after his wedding, which was prior to mine, why the rush? Just wait for it, you’ll enjoy it and get tired of it.

Never test your strength by putting yourself in a compromising situation. Learn to say no to even supposed Christian friends in compromising situations. Idleness is a killer and a veritable tool in the hands of the devil; be busy with something productive for the lord also. Selah

Agnes- Young Christians should patiently wait for the right person. Abstain from all pre-martial sex because it may mar their marriage. Do not be in a haste to bite what you cannot finish. Marry someone who loves you and who is God fearing.

Don’t be carried away because of the title or position of the person in church, pray very well and be convinced before accepting the proposal. Finally, keep yourself only for your would be spouse.


 

Who else noticed they had matching  outfits in all the pictures?! I hope you enjoyed this interview as much as I did​. Just as Chinedu said, never test your strength by putting yourself in a compromising situation.

What lessons did you pick up? Please share with us in the comment section.

Thank you for reading! Please share this post with other people!

Have an awesome weekend!

Xoxo

 

P.S : If you would like to be interviewed please send an email to feyisdiary@gmail.com

Guess who’s back??!!

Hello guys,

*Dusting off cobwebs*

After a long hiatus, I’m back to blogging. I had to take time off blogging because I had a lot going on this past two years (some of which I’ll share later on the blog).

I have a new series coming up (sorry i couldn’t complete Through the waters) and some new exciting stuff too. I also plan to start an interview series for Christian married couples who abstained from pre-marital sex, in line with God’s word. If you would like to be featured, please send me an email.

Thanks to everyone who sent me messages, emails to check up on me. I sincerely appreciate your love and concern.

Have a blessed week!

Love,

 

 

 

Taking A Break

Hii blog family,

I’m sorry I’ve been MIA.

There’s just so much going on right now that I have to put blogging on hold.

I’ll be back with Through The Waters by mid December.

Thanks for understanding 🙂

Have a great weekend.

Through The Waters 7

Hi guys,

How are you? How has your week been? Mine has been okay, I think it went by pretty fast. Anyways, TGIF!!

If you have a story to share (fiction/non fiction), please send it to feyisdiary@gmail.com

Enjoy today’s episode and please remember to leave a comment.

Have a fab weekend xx

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Mosope picked out a black jumpsuit from her closet, held it against her body and studied her appearance in the mirror; It was either this jumpsuit or a green dress. She couldn’t make up her mind because she didn’t want to appear too dressy or too casual.

She couldn’t believe she had agreed to go on a date with Yinka Da-Silva. He had asked out to dinner and she said yes. He had gone from the guy she avoided to a new friend in the space of two weeks. It started with a phone call from him that lasted well over thirty minutes.

Her relationship with Bode hadn’t gotten any better, she avoided his calls and visits. Last week he came over to her office to take her out to lunch which didn’t go to well as they ended up arguing the entire time. She was annoyed with him beacause he had reported her to her dad and Gbenga after missing pre-marital classes four consecutive Saturdays which led to them being disqualified.

She settled for the jumpsuit and got dressed. She was driving to the venue of their date because she didn’t want Yinka to come to her house even though he insisted on picking her up.

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She parked at the restaurant, picked up her clutch and left the car. As soon as she walked into the restaurant, she immediately spotted Yinka sitting at a corner on a table for two. He stood up as soon as he saw her and smiled. He looked ruggedly handsome in his jeans and navy blue shirt. She returned the smile and strode to the table, suddenlying feeling shy.

“Hi Mosope.”

“Hello Yinka.”

He gave her a hug and pecked her cheeks. The fragrance of his cologne lingered in her nostrils as she took her seat.

“You look really pretty, I love the jumpsuit.”

“Thanks Yinka.” She replied.

“I must say I feel really honored to be out with the gorgeous Mo-so-pe Lawal.”

“Oh please stop the flattery.” She rolled her eyes.

“I’m serious girl, it’s not flattery.”

Mosope smiled in return.

He picked up the menu from the table and opened it.“I think we should place our orders because it takes a while for them to bring the food.”

“Oh really? So you come here often then?”

“Well…I guess.” He perused the menu. “Not too often.” He added.

They placed their orders and made small talk while they waited for the food to arrive. Mosope felt a bit uncomfortable with the way Yinka looked at her as they talked.

Surprisingly, the food came about fifteen minutes after. They both tucked in heartily and cleared their plates.

“That was very tasty; I can’t believe I finished it.” Mosope said.

“Told ya, this is like the best Thai restaurant on the Island.” He dabbed the corners of his mouth with a napkin. “You should eat like this more often…you can do with a little flesh you know.”

“Yeah yeah, that’s what everyone says.”

“Desert?” Yinka asked.

“No thanks, I’m stuffed already.” She saw him looking at the menu. “You can go ahead though.”

“Nah I’m good. Should we go for a walk in about 5 minutes?”

“Yeah we should.”

They walked in silence along the street where the restaurant was both lost in thought. Mosope was convincing herself there was no harm in what she was doing, that she was just hanging out with a friend and Yinka was really a gentleman.

“So tell me, what’s on your mind young lady?”

“Are you sure you want to know?”

“Yep.” He reached for her hand and held it as they walked. Mosope was surprised at his gesture but didn’t show it.

“Well, I should be attending pre-martial classes with my fiancé right now and not strolling with you.”

“Is that all?”

“Yeah.”

He tugged her hands gently. “How about the fact that we are having a really good evening, haven’t you thought of that?”

“Well…yeah and that too.”

“I just wanted us to spend some time together, I just wanted to see you smile and hear you laugh.” He stopped walking and faced her. “And I’m glad I achieved that.”

Mosope smiled in return. “Should we head back? It’s getting late.”

“Oops, I didn’t realize time had flown by.”

They walked back to the restaurant and Yinka walked her to her car.

“It was really nice spending time with you Mosope, we should do this again.”

“Yeah…I had a nice time. Thanks Yinka.” She opened the door and was about to get in.

“Don’t I even get a goodnight hug?” Yinka asked in a playful voice. Mosope leaned into him for a quick hug but he held on a bit longer till she gently tapped his back and said loudly. “Okay Yinka.”

He released her, she got into her car and started the engine. “Byeee Yinka.” she said through the front window.

“Bye Mosope, please let me know when you get home, drive safely okay.”

“I will.” She replied and drove off while Yinka remained at the same spot waving at her till she was out of sight.

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Gbenga and Onyinye were in bed about to retire for the night. They had attended the wedding ceremony of Gbenga’s colleague at work earlier in the day and stopped to buy frozen yoghurt on their way home because Onyinye was craving it.

“You are going to the house to see Daddy and Bode after church tomorrow right?”

“Yeah I am…I don’t know what is wrong with my sister, I really don’t. Bode told me they had been disqualified from attending the premarital class in church because Mosope refused to attend. The thing is-”

“I’m really surprised you know.” Onyinye interrupted. “Really really surprised at the way Mosope is behaving. I really don’t understand. I’m sure something else is wrong, this isn’t just about mummy.” she continued.

“I’m not just surprised oh, I’m DISAPPOINTED. She has stopped going to church, she no longer seems interested in the marriage, she no longer calls me or even answer my phone calls. She’s just acting like a baby!”

“I think the only thing we can do is to keep praying for her Gbenga. If God could heal our marriage, he can heal Mosope too.”

“Yes we’ll pray but also TALK SENSE INTO HER. Haba!”

“Calm down big brother! Ni suru ( be patient).”

“Yes ma!” Gbenga replied playfully and tickled his wife.

“Let’s pray so we can sleep, its after 11 already.”

“Okay, I need to wee first.” Gbenga said and got up to go to the bathroom. No sooner had he gone to the bathroom did he hear his name.

“Gbengaaaaaaaa!”

He came rushing in and found his pregnant wife smiling with her hands placed on her stomach. He was by herside already with questioning eyes.

“What happened sweetheart?”

“Our baby just kicked.”

“Wow.” He sat beside her on the bed.

She took his hands and placed it on her stomach so he could feel the movement. He placed his hand but didn’t feel anything.

“He’ll kick soon.” Onyinye said.

“Hello darling, can you hear daddy’s voice? Please respond with a kick.” As if on cue, he felt the little movement on his wife’s stomach and he was awestruck.

“God is simply amazing!”

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Mosope’s dad was already asleep when she got home. She went up to her room and brought out her phone to text Yinka and saw a missed call from him.

‘Hi Yinka, I’m just got home. I had a pleasant evening. Thanks.’

He replied immediately:

‘Mosope I had such a great time with you today. Please can we do this again? Next weekend maybe? Cos I’m crazy about you. ‘

Apologies

Hiii guys,

I’m soooo sorry there was no post on Friday; I’m still trying to balance work, with studying and my hobby (writing).

I’ll try and write a long episode to make up for last week.

Have a blessed week.
God loves u!

A Prayer for Nigeria

Hi guys,

I just read this prayer for Nigeria and thought to share with you.

“For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.” Ephesians 6:12

“For the weapons of our warfare are not canal, but are mighty through God to the pulling down of strongholds” 2Corinthians 10:4

Amen to this prayer!

End-Time Musings

Psalms 35:1-10
A Psalm of David.
Plead the cause of the righteous, the poor and the innocent in Nigeria, O Lord, with them that strive with them:
fight against them that fight against your children.
Take hold of shield and buckler,
and stand up for our help.
Draw out also the spear, and stop the way against them that persecute Your children: say unto our souls, I am thy salvation.
Let them be confounded and put to shame that seek after the souls of a Your children: let them be turned back and brought to confusion that devise the hurt of the innocent!
Let them be as chaff before the wind:
and let the angel of the Lord chase them!
Let their way be dark and slippery:
and let the angel of the Lord persecute them!
For without cause have they hid for the poor, the innocent & the righteous…

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